One time, we were at the park with my kids. It was a very busy day, with a lot of families there. There were these little buckets filled with bubble solution, and there was also one of those large bubble makers — the kind with a big rope that makes giant bubbles. It was sitting outside, and my kids were playing with it and touching it.
There were two little girls nearby, and I’m not exactly sure how everything started, but one of them began bossing my daughter around. I know my daughter didn’t like it because, honestly, my daughter can be a little bossy too — she’s always telling her brothers what to do — so she recognized that behavior. Instead of arguing, she decided to walk away.
I called her over and asked what happened. I told her, “You need to speak up for yourself. Someone doesn’t get to just tell you what to do or treat you however they want.” I was trying to teach her that she needs to set boundaries.
the girl had also started talking to me in a very disrespectful way, almost like she was trying to tell me what to do. At that point, I was frustrated because she didn’t know me, and I felt like she was speaking to me as if I was another kid instead of an adult. I told her, “can u back off?” She then went and told her grown ups and told on me i guess. lol. meanwhile , another grown up approached me and explained that the girl had autism and that she sometimes struggled with social situations. She was trying to calm everything down and explain that the kid wasn’t trying to be hurtful. I understood that, and I listened, even felt sorry for her for a brief moment until…………
The other girl wasn’t just being a little bossy in a playful way. She was being very pushy and controlling. so i thought it was over and my kids went to the playground. I was talking about it with my friends, and while the kids were on the playground, they were talking to each other and i thought it was over as i see one of the girls was hugging my daughter. then i saw my daughter running up to me crying because the same girl started following her around. She was saying things to her and making her uncomfortable.
and then i found out she told my daughter that she had bad parents like wtf!
I got up and said, “Your daughter need to apologize to my daughter. “
so as we were standing there both moms and both girls
Then she had the nerve to tell both my daughter and her daughter that they needed to stay away from each other. I understand separating kids if there’s a conflict, but I didn’t think she had the right to dictate things to my daughter while ignoring her own child’s behavior.
i didn’t say anything because i didn’t know how to handle it. it’s like it’s ok for her to talk to my daughter but god forbid i talk to her child lol. some people are something!
Somehow the situation completely blew up. It went from a simple disagreement between kids to a huge argument between adults. Her partner came over, and my husband was there too. He’s usually more calm and soft-spoken, so he didn’t immediately step in.
At that point, I was overwhelmed because I felt like the whole situation had become unnecessary and dramatic. Then they started talking to other people nearby, making comments about me and telling people to look at how I was acting, telling me to calm down.
That made me even more upset because I felt like they were judging me without understanding what happened. I felt like they were trying to make me look like the problem instead of acknowledging that an adult had spoken to my child inappropriately.
Looking back, I know I was angry, but what really upset me was feeling like my daughter was being targeted and that I had to stand up for her.
how do u deal with rude kids as a parent? tell me in the comments.
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